{"id":27861,"date":"2019-11-08T10:31:41","date_gmt":"2019-11-08T15:31:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/fass\/?p=27861"},"modified":"2026-03-26T09:59:04","modified_gmt":"2026-03-26T13:59:04","slug":"jaclyns-blog-done-list","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/fass\/2019\/jaclyns-blog-done-list\/","title":{"rendered":"Jaclyn\u2019s Blog &#8211; Done List"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<section class=\"w-screen px-6 cu-section cu-section--white ml-offset-center md:px-8 lg:px-14\">\n    <div class=\"space-y-6 cu-max-w-child-5xl  md:space-y-10 cu-prose-first-last\">\n\n            <div class=\"cu-textmedia flex flex-col lg:flex-row mx-auto gap-6 md:gap-10 my-6 md:my-12 first:mt-0 max-w-5xl\">\n        <div class=\"justify-start cu-textmedia-content cu-prose-first-last\" style=\"flex: 0 0 100%;\">\n            <header class=\"font-light prose-xl cu-pageheader md:prose-2xl cu-component-updated cu-prose-first-last\">\n                                    <h1 class=\"cu-prose-first-last font-semibold !mt-2 mb-4 md:mb-6 relative after:absolute after:h-px after:bottom-0 after:bg-cu-red after:left-px text-3xl md:text-4xl lg:text-5xl lg:leading-[3.5rem] pb-5 after:w-10 text-cu-black-700 not-prose\">\n                        Jaclyn\u2019s Blog &#8211; Done List\n                    <\/h1>\n                \n                                \n                            <\/header>\n\n                    <\/div>\n\n            <\/div>\n\n    <\/div>\n<\/section>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/fass\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/46\/Jaclyn_300x300_acf_cropped.jpg\" alt=\"Jaclyn Legge\" class=\"wp-image-27681\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/fass\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/46\/Jaclyn_300x300_acf_cropped.jpg 300w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/fass\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/46\/Jaclyn_300x300_acf_cropped-200x200.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Today, I had nothing to do but to get things done. No class, no plans, just me against my To-Do list.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I make a To-Do list every day that I have entirely to myself. A very ambitious one. I don\u2019t like to stop adding things to the list. Somehow it\u2019s scarier to have two big things to do than it is to have nine items of varying difficulties, especially when 1 through 3 are \u201cshower,\u201d \u201ceat,\u201d and \u201cwater plants.\u201d And maybe I already watered the plants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I try to be kind to myself when it comes to lists, I guess. Make it easier to cross a few things off, get those reward juices flowing in my brain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And predictably, I never finish the list. They usually end up a bit like this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>shower (completed: 8pm)<\/li><li>eat (completed: 11am; 3pm; 7pm; 9pm; 1:30am)<\/li><li>water plants (completed: last night)<\/li><li>write in journal (completed: 12pm)<\/li><li>do that one reading you\u2019re really excited about (completed: 5pm)<\/li><li>do that other reading (postponed)<\/li><li>rearrange your entire room (half-completed: 2pm)<\/li><li>write essay rough draft (postponed but all the appropriate tabs are open)<\/li><li>write fiction not related to any class\/deadline (completed: 10pm)<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Fill in the extra time with farting around on the internet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I write the lists long because I\u2019m prepared to let a few things fall to the wayside; \u201cunsubscribe from Tidal\u201d has been on the list for months. But there are things that need to be done, and things that I <em>like<\/em> to do (like writing, allegedly), and I swear I <em>want <\/em>to get them done but I don\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I am very good at leaving the hardest thing on the list until the sun goes down and I can convince myself I should just have a fresh start tomorrow, until there are a startling lack of tomorrows between me and the deadline.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My lists have been like this for a long time, but now instead of tricking myself into feeling accomplished (shower! eat! plants! eat!) I feel pretty poorly about avoiding the things I\u2019m scared to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yes, scared. It\u2019s taken me a while to understand that it\u2019s not (all) laziness; it\u2019s fear. Fear of writing an essay I\u2019m not proud of. Fear of writing something so <em>bad <\/em>the muses will swoop in and tell me I should listen to my mom and use my English degree to pivot into law somehow. There is nothing that I love to do more than write, but there\u2019s something about devoting time to the activity I have staked my identity upon for as long as I can remember that\u2019s a little scary. So I avoid it. Often. And the whole time I\u2019m avoiding writing, I am thinking about it <em>constantly<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I went to counselling about this, actually. If you\u2019ve been by Health Services at Carleton recently, you\u2019ll know that the wait time for a mental-health counselling appointment is around 3 weeks as of late (or at least it was for me, with a request for a female counselor). Many of us are in and out of those offices for all sorts of reasons, and I\u2019d like to take a quick second to say: <em>good for us<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I recently discovered a Netflix series called <em>The Mind: Explained<\/em>. If your brain loves learning about brains, this is the show for you! And if you, like me, are just starting to explore the way anxiety functions in your life, I recommend the episode called \u201cAnxiety.\u201d According to the pleasant voice of Emma Stone, who narrates <em>The Mind: Explained<\/em>, our generation is a lot more likely to view seeking help as a sign of strength than any previous generation, but there is \u201cno evidence that prevalence rates of anxiety disorders have changed.\u201d We are not more anxious than our parents\u2019 and grandparents\u2019 generations, but we are perhaps <em>allowed<\/em> to be anxious more than they ever were. With the stigma around seeking help deflating all around us, more of us who need help will feel comfortable seeking it. And the resources are out there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"What&#039;s it like to go through a panic attack | Netflix + Vox The Mind, Explained: Anxiety\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/D_8ws6U7H0w?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>(I\u2019m not too happy I have to cite research in this blog, but <em>this<\/em> is how much I want you to view this episode if you haven\u2019t. I want you to be able to find my sources!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It never occurred to me to be frustrated that the wait list for mental-health counselling was so long because, well, I\u2019m happy for us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We the students are in the midst of a vulnerable, transitionary, and monumentally confusing time of our lives. We are putting ourselves out there, chin up or head down. We are learning empathy, forgiveness, generosity, and other things we didn\u2019t realize we had to learn. We are reflecting on the things we didn\u2019t know would hurt us, and learning to live with that hurt. We are meeting our demons and talking back to them. We are grappling with how embarrassed we are about who we\u2019ve become. We are growing, only to find we have even more room to grow, wondering if it\u2019ll always be like this and how we\u2019ll manage. In the meantime, we have three essays due next week, a pile of readings to catch up with, and a job in retail to grin and bear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We are carrying a lot of weight. I\u2019m grateful we have counselling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m still working on the whole \u201cfear of writing\u201d thing. That\u2019s going to be a work-in-progress for a while, probably after I graduate, too, and I\u2019m trying to be comfortable with that. In the meanwhile, all I can do is get things done the best I can.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It was at my counselling appointment that I learned about the Done List. It\u2019s the opposite of the To-Do List: at the end of the day, you make a list of what you <em>did <\/em>get done to get a sense of what you accomplished and remove your focus from the things you didn\u2019t do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In other words, you bury your guilt, and you try again tomorrow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Of course, now I\u2019m going to show you my first Done List.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Jaclyn\u2019s Done list<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Ate breakfast<\/li><li>Introduced my mom to Brandi Carlile<\/li><li>Skillfully lured a wasp out of my house by closing the front door while it buzzed around the garland, shutting myself outside in the process, and ran down the driveway without shoes and waited until the wasp flew away, all of which I think entertained my mom who was watching from her car<\/li><li>Started a book for class over a week before it needs to be read<\/li><li>Finally beat a room escape game by <a href=\"http:\/\/neutralxe.net\/esc\/index.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Neutral, whose (free!) games I have been playing and cheating at for a decade<\/a>, all on my own<\/li><li>Went to the pharmacy<\/li><li>Almost bought candy at the pharmacy but resisted<\/li><li>Went to the grocery store for avocados, became disappointed by the dubious quality of avocados, maturely left empty-handed instead of splurging on fancy avocados I could not afford<\/li><li>Almost bought fresh pasta and cheese at the store but resisted<\/li><li>Almost bought candy at the store but resisted<\/li><li>Walked home from the grocery store, which made up 3000 of my 3500 steps today (could have been worse!)<\/li><li>Reached out to a friend and made plans first (something that has been hard for me this past year)<\/li><li>Realized the benefits of saving pasta water for your mac and cheese sauce and thus had a yummy dinner (I know, I still had pasta and cheese)<\/li><li>Tried French onion soup, a food I was vehemently opposed to in my picky childhood, and found it enjoyable<\/li><li>Made a playlist of 237 songs I love by female musicians, entitled \u201cThe Gorls\u201d<\/li><li>Did a reading (about coffee tables, very exhilarating) at 10pm because I spent 3 hours creating a playlist entitled \u201cThe Gorls\u201d<\/li><li>Took a shower<\/li><li>Cracked the code for how to brush my teeth perfectly (one of those shower revelations that makes so much sense at the time)<\/li><li>Wrote the heck out of this blog post!<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Not included in this list are the anxiety and guilt I carried with me during so many moments today. Because my breakfast wasn\u2019t healthy. Because I only read two chapters of that book. Because it took me like two hours to finish that escape room. Because I took the bus to the store since I didn\u2019t want to walk there <em>and <\/em>back. Because my To-Do list was a lot more than these things, and the hard stuff is just going to be on the list again tomorrow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But I had kind of a great day, and writing it out like this has convinced me of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Of course, the \u201ctoday\u201d I\u2019ve been writing about is no longer the today I\u2019m living in now because I\u2019ve been editing this piece for a few days. Even though I didn\u2019t consider that day to be productive at the time, looking back now, I don\u2019t think I\u2019d change a single thing about it. I have no regrets about the escape-room victory or the playlist, both of which took up a lot of my time and had nothing to do with school. But I had fun. I haven\u2019t beat a room escape since, which is humbling and honestly annoying, but that also makes the memory feel more precious. And I\u2019ve been listening to \u201cThe Gorls\u201d non-stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m burying my guilt. I\u2019m ready to try again tomorrow. I encourage you to try writing your own Done List and see if it changes the way you feel about your day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ll see you next time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jaclyn<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"about-jaclyn\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">About Jaclyn<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Jaclyn Legge is a 3<sup>rd<\/sup> or 4<sup>th<\/sup> year student returning to full-time student life after completing Co-op. She spends her free time calling to the muses for inspiration in her writing, drawing, and shower dancing routines. Her poetry has been published in <em><a href=\"http:\/\/bywords.ca\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Bywords.ca<\/a><\/em>. 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