{"id":6792,"date":"2020-01-31T11:43:48","date_gmt":"2020-01-31T16:43:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/?page_id=6792"},"modified":"2020-05-22T12:31:53","modified_gmt":"2020-05-22T16:31:53","slug":"how-do-you-define-success","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/how-do-you-define-success\/","title":{"rendered":"How Do You Define Success?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>FYSM 1310G\u00a0Psychology of Success, Profs.\u00a0Matt Sorley and Anne Bowker<\/h3>\n<p>Our\u00a0first-year seminar (FYSM)<span lang=\"EN-US\">\u00a0was focused on the psychology of success and the steps that can be taken to enhance performance at university and beyond. This included\u00a0a\u00a0<i>Success Speaker<\/i>\u00a0series, which introduced students to various members of the community and their views on reaching our potential. Here are their stories and recurrent themes.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Meet Our Success Speakers (Fall 2019)<\/h3>\n<div id=\"attachment_6818\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\" style=\"width: 240px\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-6818\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3707-240x156.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"240\" height=\"156\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3707-240x156.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3707-160x104.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3707-768x499.jpg 768w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3707-400x260.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3707-360x234.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 240px) 100vw, 240px\" \/><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Prof. Matt Sorley with Kellylee Evans and Prof. Anne Bowker<\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.kellyleeevans.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Kellylee Evans<\/a><\/strong> is an award-winning singer\/songwriter who performs internationally.\u00a0 Originally from Toronto, Kellylee completed BAs in both Law and Legal studies and English, because her parents did not believe that a career as a musician was worth pursuing.\u00a0 After achieving a great deal of international success as a musician, Kellylee sustained two significant head injuries over a period of three years, and has had to redefine her definition of success to include both making herself and others happy, but also incorporating work\/life balance into her daily routine.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_6830\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\" style=\"width: 240px\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-6830\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-1-240x160.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"240\" height=\"160\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-1-240x160.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-1-160x107.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-1-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-1-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-1-360x240.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 240px) 100vw, 240px\" \/><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Prof. Anne Bowker, Dr. Rouba Fattal and Prof. Matt Sorley<\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/canadianimmigrant.ca\/canadas-top-25-immigrants\/canadas-top-25-immigrants-2019\/rouba-fattal\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Dr. Rouba Fattal<\/a><\/strong> has a Ph.D. in Political Science from Leuven University in Belgium and teaches sessionally at Carleton in the Norman Paterson School of International Affairs.\u00a0 Originally from Syria, Rouba grew up in Saudi Arabia and did not have a clear vision of her future at 18.\u00a0 After completing a degree in Microbiology to please her parents, Rouba followed her passion and studied Political Science.\u00a0 Currently, Rouba works full time for the federal government and is the founder and chairperson of the Kanata Small Business Network.\u00a0 In 2019, she was voted one of the top 25 Canadian immigrants by RBC.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_6838\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\" style=\"width: 240px\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-6838 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-240x160.jpg\" alt=\"President Dr. Benoit-Antoine Bacon\" width=\"240\" height=\"160\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-240x160.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-160x107.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-360x240.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 240px) 100vw, 240px\" \/><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Dr. Benoit-Antoine Bacon<\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/president\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Dr. Benoit-Antoine Bacon<\/a><\/strong> is the President of Carleton University and a professor, in the Department of Psychology.\u00a0 Benoit grew up in Montreal in an abusive household and spent a significant part of his life using drugs and alcohol to cope.\u00a0 Over the past 10 years, Benoit has worked on overcoming his addictions and making self-determined decisions about his life.\u00a0 According to Benoit, healing is always possible, and a journey of healing can take a lifetime.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_6841\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\" style=\"width: 240px\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-6841\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9864-240x160.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"240\" height=\"160\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9864-240x160.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9864-160x107.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9864-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9864-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9864-360x240.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 240px) 100vw, 240px\" \/><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Prof. Anne Bowker, Dr. Cecilia Jorgenson and Prof. Matt Sorley<\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/psychology\/people\/cecilia-jorgenson\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Dr. Cecilia Jorgenson<\/a><\/strong> recently received her Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology at Carleton and is currently an instructor in the Department of Psychology.\u00a0 Cecilia grew up in a poor neighbourhood of New York and is the only member of her family to have a high school degree.\u00a0 She credits her achievements to having an extremely supportive partner and children. Cecilia speaks very positively about her career in the US Navy.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_6816\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\" style=\"width: 240px\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-6816\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8672-240x160.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"240\" height=\"160\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8672-240x160.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8672-160x107.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8672-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8672-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8672-360x240.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 240px) 100vw, 240px\" \/><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Dr. Bruce Tsuji<\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/psychology\/people\/bruce-tsuji\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Dr. Bruce Tsuji<\/a><\/strong> is an instructor in the Department of Psychology at Carleton University, and graduated from Carleton with his Ph.D. in Human Computer Interaction in 2011.\u00a0 Bruce has a background in high tech and had a very successful career working for Nortel, among other companies, before returning to school for his Ph.D.\u00a0 Bruce\u2019s goals and definitions of success have changed across the life course, with meaningful experiences and positive relationships, replacing earlier goals of money and status.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<h3>Definitions of Success<\/h3>\n<p>When I was five years old, success to me meant being happy, and it definitely meant making my mom happy and making my dad happy.\u00a0<strong>(Kellylee)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>To be able to help as many people as possible; to reach outside of my boundaries and be able to make an impact on someone else\u2019s life.\u00a0<strong>(Rouba)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The path to self-determination starts with looking at yourself objectively. If you don\u2019t have a clear view of yourself, you\u2019re living in delusion, then you can\u2019t make self-determined decisions, and you can\u2019t be successful\u00a0<strong>(Benoit)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Success is about being respected in whatever field you\u2019ve chosen to go into \u2014 so being an expert, feeling like your opinion matters, feeling like you\u2019re noticed in your field.\u00a0<strong>(Cecilia)<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<div id=\"attachment_6812\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\" style=\"width: 160px\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-6812 size-thumbnail\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8647-160x107.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"160\" height=\"107\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8647-160x107.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8647-240x160.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8647-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8647-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_8647-360x240.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 160px) 100vw, 160px\" \/><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Prof. Bruce Tsuji<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Success is about the goals that we set for ourselves; in order to achieve them, we have to spend time on them; and they\u2019re not necessarily explicit.\u00a0<strong>\u2013 Bruce<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><\/p>\n<h3>Definitions of Success Change Over Time\/With Age<\/h3>\n<p>I thought making everybody happy also made me happy.\u00a0 But my definition of success had to keep changing because I kept changing and growing and learning.\u00a0 Today my definition of success has to do with balance.\u00a0 I don\u2019t have a good sense of slowing down; I had to learn to budget time for self-care, budget time for work, for play, for rest, for family and friends. <strong>(Kellylee)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Many of my goals were not really meaningful or important to the expanse of my life. Some of them took place over decades; some of them took much less time.\u00a0 For me, money and prestige didn\u2019t have a lasting impact (although they were important at one time). The goals that seem to matter are love (close relationships) and experience (the things that I\u2019ve done that have enriched my life). <strong>(Bruce)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>At 18, I never thought of being successful, either personally or outside myself. My ideas were very murky.\u00a0 To be successful, you have to follow your passion, listen to that gut feeling.\u00a0 You cannot succeed if it is somebody else telling you what to do. <strong>(Rouba)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Success is to come to a point where you say, \u201cThis is how I am\u201d. I\u2019m able to see the world exactly how it is and to make self-determined enlightened decisions for myself and the people I love.\u00a0 I moved from \u201cCan I get through this day?\u201d to \u201cI wonder what interesting things I can get into today?\u201d\u00a0 Every day is an adventure when you\u2019re in the right mindset. <strong>(Benoit)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Success became more reasonable as I got older; a work-life balance became more important to me<strong> (Cecilia)<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<div id=\"attachment_6819\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\" style=\"width: 160px\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-thumbnail wp-image-6819\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3714-160x107.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"160\" height=\"107\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3714-160x107.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3714-240x160.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3714-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3714-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_3714-360x240.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 160px) 100vw, 160px\" \/><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Kellylee Evans<\/p><\/div>\n<p>I thought making everybody happy also made me happy.\u00a0 But my definition of success had to keep changing because I kept changing and growing and learning.\u00a0 Today my definition of success has to do with balance.\u00a0 I don\u2019t have a good sense of slowing down; I had to learn to budget time for self-care, budget time for work, for play, for rest, for family and friends. <strong>\u2013\u00a0Kellylee<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3>Sometimes Your Goals Are Different From Your Family\u2019s Goals<\/h3>\n<p>My first degree is in Microbiology and Immunology that I did not enjoy.\u00a0 For my family, to be successful is to be a doctor, dentist, engineer or pharmacist. When I told my mother I wanted to study Political Science, she cried. <strong>(Rouba)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Even though I really loved singing, the idea of taking music as a subject (in high school) was not allowed.\u00a0 I didn\u2019t take any pride in any music I did and I was afraid of making my parents uncomfortable and upset.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 When I was growing up, I had three choices (of career), I could be a lawyer, a doctor or an engineer.\u00a0 The love that I had for being a musician, I had to keep buried deep inside.\u00a0 <strong>(Kellylee)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Coming from a low-income neighbourhood, my family had a lack of appreciation for education. No one in my family has a high school diploma.\u00a0 <strong>(Cecilia)<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<div id=\"attachment_6838\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\" style=\"width: 160px\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-6838 size-thumbnail\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-160x107.jpg\" alt=\"(Middle) President Dr. Benoit-Antoine Bacon\" width=\"160\" height=\"107\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-160x107.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-240x160.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_7439-360x240.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 160px) 100vw, 160px\" \/><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Prof. Anne Bowker, President Dr. Benoit-Antoine Bacon and Prof. Matt Sorley<\/p><\/div>\n<p>If you haven\u2019t seen sane adults in your family environment, then you don\u2019t know how to live. \u00a0<strong>\u2013\u00a0Benoit<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><\/p>\n<h3>Success Often Involves Overcoming Adversity<\/h3>\n<p>When you grow up in an abusive environment, when you are always living under threat; things are never safe. You don\u2019t think about success, you think about survival. I was clinically depressed for a long time; I drank and used various drugs for maybe 20 years, and then you\u2019re not thinking clearly. <strong>(Benoit)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you come from a form of trauma, there\u2019s an instinct to seek the answers outside of yourself.\u00a0 In my experience, until you sort out what\u2019s inside, nothing in the outside world will satisfy or fulfil you <strong>(Benoit)<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>The first challenge was language. When I came to Canada, I couldn\u2019t speak English or French, only Arabic.\u00a0 There was also a challenge with fitting in. When you are a 1<sup>st<\/sup> generation immigrant, you\u2019re always trying to prove yourself, to prove that you belong, that you are worthy. <strong>(Rouba)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When my mom passed away, I had to really re-assess what success meant to me.\u00a0 I realized that life is short, and you have no idea how long we have here.\u00a0 I made this huge list of things that I had always dreamt of doing, not just what others wanted me to do.\u00a0 And that list became the impetus for creating the career I have now \u2013 which is traveling the world with my music. <strong>(Kellylee)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In 2013, I was hit by lightning in my kitchen. I couldn\u2019t walk for 5 or 6 months, it was hard to cut my food, and my brain was damaged.\u00a0 In 2015, I was taking a bath, and I fainted in the tub and hit my head, experiencing my second brain injury. \u00a0I was no longer about to just push my way through life and make things work.\u00a0 I couldn\u2019t push my body; my mind and my body give up; I almost had a spirit that gave up. I was out of commission for about two years, until I got the Artist in Residence at Carleton position in 2017.\u00a0 It was my first job, post-injury. <strong>(Kellylee)<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<div id=\"attachment_6810\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\" style=\"width: 160px\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-thumbnail wp-image-6810\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9875-160x107.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"160\" height=\"107\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9875-160x107.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9875-240x160.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9875-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9875-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_9875-360x240.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 160px) 100vw, 160px\" \/><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Prof. Anne Bowker, Dr. Cecilia Jorgenson and Prof. Matt Sorley<\/p><\/div>\n<p>My biggest challenge was coming from a low-income background.\u00a0 My family had a lack of appreciation for education.\u00a0 There are things that you learn when you come from a middle-class family, things that I had to observe in other people; not knowing what to do in a new situation, and trying to act like you know what you\u2019re supposed to do.\u00a0 You don\u2019t always feel like you fit in. I\u2019ve been middle class for 25 years and sometimes I still feel like I\u2019m faking it. <strong> \u2013 Cecilia<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3>It\u2019s Not About the Money<\/h3>\n<p>Success had never had anything to do with money for me <strong>(Cecilia)<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Money and prestige don\u2019t really have legs <strong>(Bruce)<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<h3>Successful People Have Supportive Environments<\/h3>\n<p>My biggest help came from the most critical people in my life. Anger fueled my success and I wanted to \u2018show them\u2019 \u2013 people who called me a terrorist (after 9-11). I wanted to show them what we can contribute to this country as immigrants.\u00a0 <strong>(Rouba)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>My husband has always been my biggest cheerleader.\u00a0 If you don\u2019t have that support from your immediate family, you can get it elsewhere, from friends, from educational institutions.\u00a0 Carleton has been really supportive. <strong>(Cecilia)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>About ten years ago, I was at Bishop\u2019s University. It was summertime. I had started running and some healing had occurred.\u00a0 This leaves you with the full realization of what your life is like. You feel shame. You don\u2019t know how to do better, there must be somebody who knows how to live.\u00a0 Jamie Crooks was a philosophy professor. I started to run with him. He was the choir director, so I started to sing in the choir.\u00a0 He was also involved in leadership at Bishop\u2019s.\u00a0 If Jamie had been a furniture maker, then maybe I\u2019d be a furniture maker.\u00a0 I was just looking for some sense, and the way he lived his life inspired me.\u00a0 And part of that was getting into the business of leading universities. And 15 years later, I \u2018m still doing it. That\u2019s life-changing. <strong>(Benoit)<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<div id=\"attachment_6805\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\" style=\"width: 160px\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-6805 size-thumbnail\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-160x107.jpg\" alt=\"Prof. Anne Bowker, Rouba and Prof. Matt Sorley\" width=\"160\" height=\"107\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-160x107.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-240x160.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/first-year-seminars\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_6356-360x240.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 160px) 100vw, 160px\" \/><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Prof. Anne Bowker, Dr. Rouba Fattal and Prof. Matt Sorley<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Growing up (in Saudi Arabia), there were no role models for women. But my mother is a very strong character, opinionated, a strong feminist, at a time and place not to be a feminist, yet she was.\u00a0 That instilled something in me.\u00a0<strong>\u2013 Rouba<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><\/p>\n<h3>Education Is Important<\/h3>\n<p>Education is critical for success. Education, by itself, is not as helpful as it used to be.\u00a0 You need to network and meet other people. The more people you get to know, the more opportunities become available. <strong>(Cecilia)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Completing a Ph.D. in 2011, was an important achievement, that informed a lot of my life going forward. <strong>(Bruce)<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>Successful People Have Passion and Love to Learn<\/h3>\n<p>Nobody wakes up and says, Oh, I am passionate about this. You do something, and it just opens up that space. <strong>(Rouba)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>My passion is helping people, part of that is recognition. I feel happy when people say \u201cThank you.\u201d <strong>(Rouba)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I try to find something fun in every class that I take or any job that I do. (<strong>Cecilia)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I remember when women were first allowed into the military academy. That was a remarkable event for me, so I had a goal of going into the military academy. <strong>(Cecilia).<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The military (Cecilia was in the Navy), is filled with people who don\u2019t know their potential. The military helps to show you your potential. <strong>(Cecilia).<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Given that the chance to be born is so rare, any attitude other than gratitude towards life is irrational.\u00a0 Life is super hard, and a moment of joy alleviates years of suffering <strong>(Benoit).<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Even with seven arrows through the heart, healing is always possible. A journey of healing lasts a lifetime <strong>(Benoit)<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Making mistakes is part of living, but what\u2019s really dumb is when we make mistakes and don\u2019t learn from them. <strong>(Bruce)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I realized I needed to make myself happy, so success became about making myself happy.\u00a0 I started to write my own music, created this career for myself. My first album was nominated for a Juno. <strong>(Kellylee)<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>Next<\/h3>\n<p>Success Speakers (Winter 2020) included Erica Gilmour (CEO of Hummingbird Chocolates) and Shawn Menard (Ottawa City Councillor and Carleton alumni)(interview details to follow)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>FYSM 1310G\u00a0Psychology of Success, Profs.\u00a0Matt Sorley and Anne Bowker Our\u00a0first-year seminar (FYSM)\u00a0was focused on the psychology of success and the steps that can be taken to enhance performance at university and beyond. This included\u00a0a\u00a0Success Speaker\u00a0series, which introduced students to various members of the community and their views on reaching our potential. 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