{"id":17993,"date":"2022-03-30T22:04:22","date_gmt":"2022-03-31T02:04:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/?p=17993"},"modified":"2024-08-27T16:57:56","modified_gmt":"2024-08-27T20:57:56","slug":"the-shift","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/2022\/the-shift\/","title":{"rendered":"The shift"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<section class=\"w-screen px-6 cu-section cu-section--white ml-offset-center md:px-8 lg:px-14\">\n    <div class=\"space-y-6 cu-max-w-child-5xl  md:space-y-10 cu-prose-first-last\">\n\n            <div class=\"cu-textmedia flex flex-col lg:flex-row mx-auto gap-6 md:gap-10 my-6 md:my-12 first:mt-0 max-w-5xl\">\n        <div class=\"justify-start cu-textmedia-content cu-prose-first-last\" style=\"flex: 0 0 100%;\">\n            <header class=\"font-light prose-xl cu-pageheader md:prose-2xl cu-component-updated cu-prose-first-last\">\n                                    <h1 class=\"cu-prose-first-last font-semibold !mt-2 mb-4 md:mb-6 relative after:absolute after:h-px after:bottom-0 after:bg-cu-red after:left-px text-3xl md:text-4xl lg:text-5xl lg:leading-[3.5rem] pb-5 after:w-10 text-cu-black-700 not-prose\">\n                        The shift\n                    <\/h1>\n                \n                                \n                            <\/header>\n\n                    <\/div>\n\n            <\/div>\n\n    <\/div>\n<\/section>\n\n<p>Dad and I waited in a hospital room for the findings from Mom\u2019s operation. We were cautiously optimistic. I fiddled with her wedding rings, which she had given me for safe-keeping.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The diagnosis cut through our optimism like a knife.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We cried, alone in our grief. I waited for Dad to come over and put his arms around me as my mother would have. But he did not. Our roles had shifted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I was reminded of this day years later when my father and I went to an Edwin Holgate exhibition at the National Gallery. I was drawn to a painting of a sombre girl dressed in black, sitting on a green settee with her hands folded in her lap. The plaque on the wall said, \u201cLudivine, 1930. This is Holgate\u2019s portrait of a 15 year old girl at her mother\u2019s funeral. She has just become the female head of her family and is facing all the weight and responsibility that comes with that.\u201d Her expression perfectly captured my shift from cared-for to carer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(image posted)<br>\nword count: 177<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"240\" height=\"293\" src=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelonglifelong\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/37\/Edwin-Holgate-240x293.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-17994\" srcset=\"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/37\/Edwin-Holgate-240x293.jpg 240w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/37\/Edwin-Holgate-400x488.jpg 400w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/37\/Edwin-Holgate-160x195.jpg 160w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/37\/Edwin-Holgate-360x439.jpg 360w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/37\/Edwin-Holgate-200x244.jpg 200w, https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/37\/Edwin-Holgate.jpg 525w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 240px) 100vw, 240px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dad and I waited in a hospital room for the findings from Mom\u2019s operation. We were cautiously optimistic. I fiddled with her wedding rings, which she had given me for safe-keeping. The diagnosis cut through our optimism like a knife. We cried, alone in our grief. I waited for Dad to come over and put [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":17994,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17993","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-memoir"],"acf":{"cu_post_thumbnail":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17993","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17993"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17993\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":18009,"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17993\/revisions\/18009"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17994"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17993"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17993"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/lifelong\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17993"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}