{"id":63624,"date":"2018-12-17T17:00:04","date_gmt":"2018-12-17T22:00:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newsroom.carleton.ca\/?post_type=cu_story&#038;p=63624"},"modified":"2025-08-19T09:37:33","modified_gmt":"2025-08-19T13:37:33","slug":"science-goodbye-santa","status":"publish","type":"cu_story","link":"https:\/\/carleton.ca\/news\/story\/science-goodbye-santa\/","title":{"rendered":"The science of saying goodbye to Santa"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<section class=\"w-screen px-6 cu-section cu-section--white ml-offset-center md:px-8 lg:px-14\">\n    <div class=\"space-y-6 cu-max-w-child-max  md:space-y-10 cu-prose-first-last\">\n\n        \n                    \n                    \n            \n    <div class=\"cu-wideimage relative flex items-center justify-center mx-auto px-8 overflow-hidden md:px-16 rounded-xl not-prose  my-6 md:my-12 first:mt-0 bg-opacity-50 bg-cover bg-cu-black-50 pt-24 pb-32 md:pt-28 md:pb-44 lg:pt-36 lg:pb-60 xl:pt-48 xl:pb-72\" style=\"background-image: url(https:\/\/carleton.ca\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/162\/conversation-goodbye-santa-1200w-1.jpg); background-position: 50% 50%;\">\n\n                    <div class=\"absolute top-0 w-full h-screen\" style=\"background-color:rgba(0,0,0,0.600);\"><\/div>\n        \n        <div class=\"relative z-[2] max-w-4xl w-full flex flex-col items-center gap-2 cu-wideimage-image cu-zero-first-last\">\n            <header class=\"mx-auto mb-6 text-center text-white cu-pageheader cu-component-updated cu-pageheader--center md:mb-12\">\n\n                                    <h1 class=\"cu-prose-first-last font-semibold mb-2 text-3xl md:text-4xl lg:text-5xl lg:leading-[3.5rem] cu-pageheader--center text-center mx-auto after:left-px\">\n                        The science of saying goodbye to Santa\n                    <\/h1>\n                \n                            <\/header>\n        <\/div>\n\n                    <svg xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"absolute bottom-0 w-full z-[1]\" fill=\"none\" viewbox=\"0 0 1280 312\">\n                <path fill=\"#fff\" d=\"M26.412 315.608c-.602-.268-6.655-2.412-13.524-4.769a1943.84 1943.84 0 0 1-14.682-5.144l-2.276-.858v-5.358c0-4.876.086-5.358.773-5.09 1.674.643 21.38 5.84 34.646 9.109 14.682 3.59 28.935 6.858 45.936 10.449l9.874 2.089H57.322c-16.4 0-30.31-.16-30.91-.428ZM460.019 315.233c42.974-10.074 75.602-19.88 132.443-39.867 76.16-26.791 152.063-57.709 222.385-90.663 16.7-7.823 21.336-10.074 44.262-21.273 85.004-41.688 134.719-64.193 195.291-88.413 66.55-26.577 145.2-53.584 194.27-66.765C1258.5 5.626 1281.34 0 1282.24 0c.17 0 .34 27.596.34 61.3v61.299l-2.23.375c-84.7 13.718-165.93 35.955-310.736 84.931-46.494 15.753-65.427 22.076-96.166 32.15-9.102 3-24.814 8.198-34.989 11.574-107.543 35.954-153.008 50.422-196.626 62.639l-6.74 1.876-89.126-.054c-78.135-.054-88.782-.161-85.948-.857ZM729.628 312.875c33.229-10.985 69.248-23.523 127.506-44.207 118.705-42.223 164.596-57.709 217.446-73.302 2.62-.75 8.29-2.465 12.67-3.751 56.19-16.772 126.94-33.597 184.17-43.671 5.07-.91 9.66-1.768 10.22-1.875l.94-.161v170.236l-281.28-.054H719.968l9.66-3.215ZM246.864 313.411c-65.041-2.251-143.047-12.11-208.432-26.256-18.375-3.965-41.73-9.538-42.202-10.074-.171-.214-.257-21.38-.214-47.046l.129-46.618 6.654 3.697c57.313 32.043 118.491 56.531 197.699 79.143 40.313 11.521 83.459 18.058 138.669 21.059 15.584.857 65.685.857 81.14 0 33.744-1.876 61.306-4.93 88.396-9.806 6.396-1.126 11.634-1.983 11.722-1.929.255.375-20.48 7.769-30.999 11.038-28.592 8.948-59.288 15.646-91.873 20.147-26.36 3.59-50.015 5.627-78.35 6.698-15.584.59-55.209.59-72.339-.053Z\"><\/path>\n                <path fill=\"#fff\" d=\"M-3.066 295.067 32.06 304.1v9.033H-3.066v-18.066Z\"><\/path>\n            <\/svg>\n            <\/div>\n\n    \n\n    <\/div>\n<\/section>\n\n<p>Dear Parent,  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Santa here. I know this season has been hard. Your eight-year-old looked at you baldfaced and said I wasn\u2019t real. How can this be? Is the innocence and magic already gone? It seems like just yesterday they were so easily convinced that crumbs on the plate were irrefutable evidence that I\u2019d been there. And they have no respect for how hard I work to make my handwriting look just like yours! <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No matter that you never got a chance to tell them I don\u2019t exist. <a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/BF02253287\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Most children come to that conclusion themselves.<\/a> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But don\u2019t worry about your kids too much. Coming to disbelieve in Santa is not particularly distressing for them. You, like many parents, are actually <a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/BF02253287\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">sadder than your kids are about it.<\/a> And they probably won\u2019t blame you for having told them I exist, either. Kids who no longer believe in me <a href=\"https:\/\/europepmc.org\/abstract\/med\/9052114\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">think that other kids should be encouraged to<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image align-center\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/306843\/original\/file-20191213-85417-1vfnqt2.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip\" alt=\"\"\/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n              <span class=\"caption\">Research suggests not many children over the age of seven-and-a-half believe in Santa. <span class=\"source\">(Shutterstock)<\/span><\/span><br>\n            <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>And a little happiness can\u2019t hurt, particularly in light of evidence that <a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/s11482-015-9441-8\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">people are less happy around Christmastime,<\/a> (with the exception of devout Christians).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Parenting is tough these days. I don\u2019t get a lot of news up here in the North Pole, though we\u2019ve gotten a lot more since Mrs. Claus talked the elves into using pixie-dust to make a rocking horse that functions as an Amazon Echo. But from the little news we get, we can tell that people are <a href=\"http:\/\/mottnpch.org\/sites\/default\/files\/documents\/061917_criticizingmoms.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">super-judgmental about every decision you make,<\/a> including your decision to (or not to) tell your kids to believe in Santa Claus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some Christians think Santa strengthens <a href=\"https:\/\/onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1111\/j.1542-734X.1987.1001_87.x\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">consumption as religion<\/a>. Indeed, like the gods of religions, I do have <a href=\"https:\/\/onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/doi\/full\/10.1111\/j.1551-6709.2012.01242.x\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">\u201cstrategic knowledge\u201d<\/a> about what your kids do that is good and bad, paying more attention to moral issues than anything else (I don\u2019t pay any attention to <em>you<\/em>, parents, so don\u2019t worry about clearing your browser history, ho ho ho!). But the similarity of believing in me to believing in the gods of religions is <a href=\"http:\/\/nautil.us\/blog\/is-santa-claus-a-god\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">tenuous,<\/a> because <a href=\"https:\/\/ora.ox.ac.uk\/objects\/uuid:efbc8932-ac22-4975-914f-f47a3e221545\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">I have failed to attract a substantial community of true believers.<\/a> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your skeptical kids are not alone. <a href=\"http:\/\/psycnet.apa.org\/record\/2013-42173-004\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Not many people over the age of seven-and-a-half believe in Santa Claus.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some think that telling kids about me is lying, and destroys trust, but <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/lies-about-santa-they-could-be-good-for-your-child-88855\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">there\u2019s no evidence that that happens<\/a>. In fact, there isn\u2019t any scientific evidence that believing in me is harmful in any way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image align-center\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/250792\/original\/file-20181216-185234-gwpv26.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip\" alt=\"\"\/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n              <span class=\"caption\">There\u2019s no evidence that telling kids about Santa destroys trust. (<span class=\"attribution\"><span class=\"source\">Michael Nunes\/Unsplash<\/span>, <a class=\"license\" href=\"http:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by\/4.0\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">CC BY<\/a><\/span>)<\/span><br>\n            <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>But belief might have some benefits: kids are more generous after talking about me (versus when they talk about pets or the Easter Bunny). But <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/pii\/0361476X84900031\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">it\u2019s unclear whether bringing up Santa promotes good behaviour.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So if your kids stopped believing, or if they never did, it probably doesn\u2019t matter much either way. But don\u2019t be too sad. Just because a sleigh ride ends doesn\u2019t mean it wasn\u2019t fun, does it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good night,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Santa Claus<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This article is republished from <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/institutions\/carleton-university-900\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The Conversation<\/a> under a Creative Commons license. Carleton University is a member of this unique digital journalism platform that launched in June 2017 to boost visibility of Canada\u2019s academic faculty and researchers. Interested in writing a piece? Please contact <a href=\"mailto:steven.reid3@carleton.ca\">Steven Reid<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/become-an-author\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">sign up to become an author<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>All photos provided by The Conversation from various sources.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8212;<br>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/newsroom.carleton.ca\/\">Carleton Newsroom<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/counter.theconversation.com\/content\/108235\/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic\" alt=\"The Conversation\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Parent, Santa here. I know this season has been hard. Your eight-year-old looked at you baldfaced and said I wasn\u2019t real. How can this be? Is the innocence and magic already gone? It seems like just yesterday they were so easily convinced that crumbs on the plate were irrefutable evidence that I\u2019d been there. 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