The Benefits of Solitude: A Student’s Perspective
By Madelyn Cook
Solitude, what does it truly mean? Is it a tool, or a hindrance? I used to believe solitude was synonymous with loneliness; being by yourself, separated from others, linked to fear, isolation, rejection, and sadness. But I’ve since realized that solitude is so much more. It isn’t just the absence of people, for me, solitude has become clarity, comfort, presence and recharge, especially in a world of constant notifications, assignments, emails and group chats vying for attention.
University was the first place where solitude felt unavoidable. Before moving away from home, moments alone were rare. I grew up in a lively house with my parents, my sister, two dogs and close family living right around the corner popping in and out. Quiet moments were few and far between. With that as my “normal,” the idea of leaving home to attend school at Carleton, stepping into stillness, distance and independence, was terrifying. But it didn’t take long for me to appreciate how valuable being alone could truly be.
One of the first benefits I discovered was focus. While group work has its place, working alone on assignments or essays in a quiet space allows me to immerse myself fully in the task.
Without the pull of conversations, distractions or people watching, I process information more efficiently. Solitude removes the pressure of comparison and lets my understanding take center stage. It creates a mental stillness where I can think clearly and deeply.
Solitude has also taught me mindfulness and self-reflection. Being alone with my thoughts has helped me learn to trust my intuition and understand my own desires, goals, and values. I’ve become more present, better at grounding myself, prioritizing the here and now and pausing to appreciate each accomplishment before rushing towards the next. With this presence has come resilience. Sitting with my thoughts during stressful academic periods isn’t always easy. But solitude has pushed me to develop coping strategies that don’t rely on others for reassurance. I’ve learned how to calm myself, motivate myself and set my own boundaries. That independence has made me more confident both as a student and as a person.
Surprisingly, solitude has even improved my social life. Taking intentional time alone allows me to recharge, so I can show up for others with more patience, presence, and energy. Instead of feeling drained or overwhelmed, I engage with a clearer mind and a more genuine spirit.
Solitude helps me take care of myself so I can better support the people around me.
In the end, throughout my degree, I’ve learned that solitude isn’t about withdrawing from the world, it’s about returning to it more focused, grounded, and recharged. It has become an essential part of my everyday life, a quiet strength that supports everything else I do.